These are not easy movements, decisions, and paths to take. For me, it has come at great cost: not in all areas and in all ways, but areas and ways that mattered to me and caused deep pain and a deep sadness. It caused loneliness, despair, anger, depression, bewilderment, distress, crisis; and above all else: grief.
Read MoreFor a long time, it seemed like distraction was looked at negatively: it’s the thing to avoid aggressively, because it will tank your productivity and your vision for how you want your life to look like. But now it seems like more of us look to distraction in a positive light: it’s the thing that keeps us from having to deal with the difficulties life throws our way. It numbs our emotional state and makes us not feel the weight of pain, anxiety, grief, and other stressors.
Read MoreNow, make no mistake, work ethic is important. Doing good quality work is vital. But work should not be the defining thing in our lives. We are meant to be so much more than our work and what we do. We are beings so beautifully creative, diverse, and talented; that just to be regulated and remembered for our work seems to fall short in the grand scheme of things.
Read MoreI feel that I am just beginning this transition into the “second half” of life earlier than I expected. Yet, in finding that I have shed much of my identity that I developed in the “first half”, I’ve gone from the crisis phase to an embracing phase which is much more comforting.
Read MoreI would argue that work is different than purpose. Work is something you do to provide for your basic needs and/or the basic needs of others. Purpose is what you are passionate about and how you want to live out that passion. The greatest thing one can do is merge these two realities together. That makes work less of a drudgery and more of a pleasure. But how do we find the epicenter of these two realities?
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